I have been asked by a fellow girl to speak about how she doesn’t really like that her husband doesn’t show her appreciation. And how even with her successes, she doesn’t see him clapping for her at all and being there for her in those amazing times…
Let’s take it one step at a time…
First of all, as I have always said and will always say that you shouldn’t wait for anyone no matter who the person is to be your fuel of motivation. Don’t wait for someone’s approval so you can feel good about yourself. Don’t wait for someone’s appreciation so you can keep on moving; Appreciate yourself instead.
We know how being appreciated could make us feel that we are valued, worthy, liked…. But not receiving it shouldn’t let that stop you from doing your best still.. or feeling worthy and valued…
So now, I am not specifically talking about husbands and wives.. I will be general in this post, so everyone could actually benefit from what I am about to say..
Some people lack the ability to express their feelings. If they don’t say it out loud doesn’t mean they don’t feel it or aware of it. Maybe your spouse, some of your friends aren’t the types of people to speak out… about anything at all. So stop your worry and overwhelming state of mind… And start letting them know how you truly feel.
It’s funny how lack of communication could really raise the assumptions that lead to stress, worry and depression….. Between a couple, friends or family members.
If this person matters to you then you need to have a serious sit and talk about this particular subject. First of all show them appreciation.
Let them know how grateful you are to have them in your life, and how they truly mean a lot to you; that their words and actions could have an impact on your life. Then start telling them that it really means a lot to you to have their support in whatever that you do. It does not make you feel good and it does annoy to be unacknowledged. It is really important to be taken serious in this matter. Because once you start joking around and laughing it out it won’t be taken seriously.
What I have noticed in our society and perhaps everywhere else is that a lot of people find it easier to discourage and criticize others than to genuinely speaking words of appreciation and encouragement. To me, it is sad because some find it weird and heavy to just compliment others on their doings even for the littlest things.
Try this one out…. Compliment someone when they have done something so small and see their reaction… It is priceless… And when you realize how you ended up making someone’s day or moment; you honestly will not stop spreading love and sincere appreciation around you.
Lead by example. Be appreciative of yourself and others. People will imitate how you treat yourself. Try to say words to boost and encourage your mate, friends and family constantly. Even if you’re not being appreciated in return… Eventually they’ll pick it up and they’ll say something to you out of the blue.
Ways to show appreciation:
- Say thank you always…
- Give people your full attention when they’re speaking to you.
- Look them in the eyes and speak words of encouragement and actually mean it.
- Remind them how beautiful they are inside and out.
- Observe the tiny details that people usually ignore. and acknowledge it as well.
- Let them know how proud you are of them for being and doing their best.
And remember, “a person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected.”
Keep your hard work up
Practice self motivation
Appreciate yourself and give yourself the praise to know that you are doing your best., After all, let yourself go to bed with a satisfaction that you are an amazing person and you have done your best for you and others.
“You got to let the people know while they’re here how much they’re appreciated and how much you love them.”