I will try my best to keep this post as simple and straight forward as possible.
“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.”
I have been asked to speak about it.
And since I have been one person all over the place with wars inside of me, to a whole complete different person right now. I have re-created my life because I wasn’t living it right; I wasn’t living it fully.
From how I have been living for the past 25 years I can assure you that nothing good came from being in a rush. Always running after things, thought after another…
When was the last time you actually sat down thoughtless and in a state of calmness?
We’re sad claiming that we seek inner peace, yet we cannot stop the wars within us? As much as we would like to have some calmness but we still struggle in finding the truths of things that aren’t even ours to find. Always looking for things to think about. These are just few reasons for having a busy mind. Not everything deserves to be thought about. Not everything needs your full attention.. Just like how you filter your photos before posting on social media.. Sometimes we need to filter thoughts to see if they’re worth our energy and time.
I can tell you right now, to start having a positive life, a happy life full of contentment; you need to start learning acceptance. Accept things as they are. Accept your current situation. Accept the things that has happened to you, and the things that are happening… Sometimes denying our realities keeps us from falling asleep. Refusing to accept what is actual and living in a fantasy made from our own assumptions is a way to misery.
When we truly realize that happiness and inner peace comes from within and not without, we’d move on knowing that it is on us. We’d have no one to blame… We’d live a life knowing that it is our responsibility to keep ourself happy and content. And because we aren’t relying on others to make us happy; it will be easier not to accept rubbish from others. Thus, Our inner peace will be fixed rather than shaky….
Frustrations, Depression, Stress, Anxiety….
Accept them, go through them and then be over with them.
Nobody said that to have a positive life it means that no more negativity. We are humans, full of different emotions. It is ok for us to get hurt but it’s not ok to keep on suffering. After all, “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”. The answer is to find the balance. When to say no and when to say yes. You can’t live a life saying yes to everything…. And vice versa.
We need to have mental immunity. I have spoken about that before, you can click here to read more about it. Just like you want to strengthen your physical immunity to reject viruses and diseases. You need mental immunity to protect bad thoughts from roaming in your mind.
If you look closely you can tell that a lot of people seek happiness in ‘things’ like, money, job positions, relationships, etc…For example:
Inner peace does not come and stay just because you have money… A lot of rich people are actually miserable. Money can buy you things to live a decent life but it’s not a source of happiness or peace… So you see a lot of people always on their toes, searching, running to find more because they’re not happy with what they have…. If you’re not satisfied with what you already have… You’ll never be satisfied with anything added.. Because the more you get the more you want..
The way to inner peace…..
Always be forgiving.. Forgive yourself for past mistakes. For being wrong. Know that we are bound to make mistakes… Forgive others for their faults. It’s the only way for you to actually move on. Try to see things from their point of view. Realize the reasons for their actions so you could accept an apology that you never received. I think the only way to move on peacefully is to forgive. I also wrote a blog post about forgiveness, if you’re interested Click Here
You can’t have peace if you keep comparing yourself to others. Or wondering what would it be like to be better that him/her… We need to remind ourselves that the only person we need to compare ourself with is our yesterday’s version. Are we better today than yesterday? Always seek improvement because you are always being…. You don’t just become… Being envious will get you no where.. It will for sure add up to more dissatisfaction. And will always keep you observing others instead of yourself. Be busy improving yourself and everything else will fall into place.
Just like how you shouldn’t compare yourself to others, you shouldn’t think you’re the best either. Being modest is key. Even though some see it as being weak but being humble has its power… Start with acknowledging:
- You don’t know everything
- You could be wrong
- Apologize when making a mistake
Stop it! Stop complaining about what you don’t have and start counting your blessings. The more you complain the less you gain. Waking up in the morning is a blessing… when you are breathing right and able to get off bed with both feet on the ground… That should be a reason for you to be grateful.. What else do you need to have so you can truly have a sense of gratitude? “It’s a funny thing about life, once you begin to take note of the things you are grateful for, you begin to lose sight of the things that you lack.”
At the end I just want to say that you control how you feel. You control who gets to leave an impact on you. You allow people to hurt you.. Nobody can hurt you without your permission. So what you allow, will continue.
IF you’re miserable, unhappy, dissatisfied, you have no one else to blame but yourself. Quit placing excuses… No it’s not your family, childhood, circumstances…. lack of people around you.. It’s You. Your life is as good as your mindset. As soon as you get yourself together… Everything else will fall into place.